All my life I have been struggling with my Femininity and what it means to be female. During childhood, my feminine qualities were naturally over-exposed and then exploited. Causing me to align myself with masculine traits like physical strength and emotional neutrality for protection. This began a lifetime of striving to be as strong as males, as capable as males, and as smart as males.
However, when it came to attracting a partner, I was at a loss. I did not know how to have healthy female energy. And I inadvertently, caused a lot of males to feel emasculated. Currently, as a married forty years older woman with children, I am wondering how to achieve healthy femininity. And to allow my partner to have healthy masculinity around me.
These thoughts are sparked by my deep love for Victorian literature. Through my constant fascination with how femininity is defined throughout history, I hope to find feminine energy balance. I have concluded that society is forgetting how unique and sacred the role females have in humanity. Today, I see a society that is stripped of its femininity.
Despite what history has stated, the genders can do many of the same tasks. Although during the time females asked for equality in the home and workplace, females also unfairly gave up their feminine qualities to seem equal. Both genders have their unique physical, mental and emotional qualities and females and males are not equal. They need to complement each other and both need to be honoured for their unique abilities.
I use the term ‘abilities’ based on that they are different from traits. Because we all possess both masculine and feminine traits, but not all of us are composed the same abilities.
Loss Of Masculinity
When a whole gender is undefined, the counterpart gender is left to stand alone. Due to de-feminizing, we unintentionally cause society to focus only on masculinity and be overwhelmed by it. Forcing society to turn against masculinity to stabilize the energies. The true solution is to reinstate femininity, not to strip away masculine energy as well.
Therefore allowing females to be emotional and vulnerable in a safe environment again. As well as to allow males to protect and support society as we regain balance.
Live Joy, Renee